For parents and caregivers
Support them without losing sight of them.
A calmer place to understand concerns, prepare conversations and compare care with the young person involved.
Begin with what you have noticed
A first conversation can be simple: "I have noticed you seem to be having a harder time, and I would like to understand." Leave room for an answer you did not expect. Avoid starting with a treatment destination or an argument about motivation.
Useful notes for an appointment might include changes in daily routine, attendance, friendships, substance use, and any immediate concerns. Include the young person’s own description, not only the family’s interpretation.
Separate three decisions
- What needs professional assessment?
- What level of care is being recommended, and why?
- Which specific service can provide that care safely?
Keep family support practical
Decide who will organise appointments, who will communicate with school or university, and what information needs to be shared. Consider support for yourself and siblings as well. A family plan should not require one person to become a full-time monitor.